Therapeutic NLP - Answers - Constellations


Family Constellations

Can I learn how to do Constellations without learning NLP first?

Certainly you can do that through other organizations but you will hear from them that NLP training enhances your ability as a constellation facilitator. For Therapeutic NLP, many important concepts of the Constellations training is covered during the NLP training. We also use and build on that NLP-Constellation foundation and expand on it to be able to create healing change throughout final three courses (TNLP 1, 2 and 3).

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What is your Philosophy?

It is my firm belief you have the power to heal yourself from the effects of abuse and trauma by using your mind. Let me show you how.

My goal is your relief.

During our lives scars from our past can re-surface and hold us back from living the lives we want. When we least expect it, these scars can cause enough psychological and even physical pain to have us back away from the very opportunities we desire. Making us feel worse about our selves and our abilities.

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What is a Constellation?

A constellation is a process in which hidden unconscious aspects of a company or family are brought to the surface so that the issues can be resolved. Constellation facilitation can occur in individual session work or with a group.

The constellation technology we used originated from Virginia Satir's Family Reconstruction therapy that would occuur over days to create a resolution. Virginia noticed that if she could get the entire family to stand in specific orders and position that the issues between the family members would resolve.

Bert Hellinger took this work and developed further by using stand ins or proxies for the family members and found that the resolution took place whether the original family was in the room or not.

Carl Buccheit developed it further by making the constellation double blind to remove both practitioner's bias and proxy bias and then developed a method of constellation for working with indiviudal clients.

I use a modified version of Carl's work. My clients are always surprised what we dig out of their psychie and the information available to them in this process - especially since they are able to validate the information gained and they are able to physically feel the release when we resolve issues in their family system.

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When should I consider having a Constellation?

When there are problems like repeat finance, career problems, chronic health issues, relationship problems/patterns, when there is metal or physical illness like terminal disease, frequent accidents, suicidal tendencies, depression, problems sleeping, etc. in your family. All of these are signals to consider a constellation. Check in with us, we will be starting group sessions over the summer months where we will be doing constellation group work.

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What are constellations?

"I open myself to a situation in darkness, not knowing what is going on. ... when I find a place of light, I try to describe what is illuminating me...when the right word is found, those for whom it came, grasp it at a level beyond rational thought. The right word touches and moves them even when they don't understand how." - Bert Hellinger

"Everything I thought I understood about love, death, families, tragedies, illness, war and loss expanded in ways I could never have imagined. I saw people who were struggling with depression, with money, with illness, with relationship issues, transformed on a huge scale. I saw how tragedies and loss from the past were still affecting the lives of family members several generations later-even if they had no conscious knowledge of the original events. I heard stories of how after a constellation, family members half way around the world -who had no idea a constellation had been done - were suddenly transformed. I felt changes happening in me just from witnessing other people's constellations. It became obvious that we are all way more connected than we have any way of knowing." - Michelle Masters

This simple and complex experience will change the way you experience change. You will not be the same; your sense of who you are in this world and our universe or space and time-especially time-will change, usefully, wonderfully, and irrevocably for you.

Family constellations was started by Virginia Satir and further developed by Bert Hellinger, a German Psychotherapist. The version we use was adapted by Michelle Masters and Carl Buccheit.

"... all people carry with them an energetic field or blueprint of their biological families - this field has been called the family soul or family conscience. The energetic field has an enormous unconscious effect on each family member's life and all the people they interact with. Long standing problems with health, depression, relationships, failed finances, etc. are usually a result of unconscious entanglements in the family soul. Doing a constellation is a way to bring those entanglements to light, and allow for some resolution to happen. Quite often after a constellation, other members of the family who were not present for the constellation - didn't even know it was happening report dramatic shifts as a result. Because the family is a system --- like an energetic mobile, what affects one, affects all. And what keeps one stuck, affects them all." - Bert Hellinger

Leopold Zundi, a biologist discovered that a species passes important survival information genetic material. Latent ressesive genes provide information so that a species can pass adaptive survival strategies on to the next generation. This explains why you might find families of with 4 generations of lawyers or 3 generations of doctors.

When this information works negatively in our lives we call it an entanglements. These problems last for about 7 generations or for about 25-30 people unless it is something like murder, which can have an effect for a longer period of time.

For example the original incident could be something like: Grandpa lost money in the depression and it leaves an imprint in the family subconscious. This has the effect on your father's and maybe your ability to hold onto money.

Types of entanglements show up as thing like the following in business and in life:

No permission to connect:

  • a.) Alone - overwhelmed - workaholic
  • b.) Trouble networking
  • c.) Not getting enough new customers
  • d.) Trouble in relationships (afraid to let go into intimacy to pattern of attracting other who won't open up.)

No permission for success:

  • a.) Trouble starting or growing a business
  • b.) High water mark: money
  • c.) Trouble selling products or services
  • d.) Uncomfortable doing sales

Pull towards death:

  • a.) A dim life - not much success
  • b.) Health issues
  • c.) Not knowing what you want/indecisive
  • d.) Emotions, sadness, dark mornings (like driving down the highway and having a desire to turn the wheel and run somebody over for no good reason)

Jewish, African, Irish, native, American and Chinese people are the big 5 for lots of problems due to the exceptionally traumatic calamities which have surrounded their ethnic histories.

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