Why learn with us?
We are the only NLP center offering this unique type of NLP work in Canada and maybe the world. In addition, Tracy Joy has expanded the NLP curriculum she learned substantially into neurology, psychotherapy, mind-body medicine and humanistic psychology. We cover multiple therapy trainings in our TNLP training so that our practitioners are adequately prepared to deal with the uniqueness and flexibility needed to deal with individuals dealing with traumatic stress and anxiety. In the next 2 years the TNLP School For Personal and Professional Change will be going after accreditation for its students for learning this Therapeutic NLP approach to Addiction, PTSD, and trauma therapy in counseling - i.e.: so if you want to take your NLP learning much, much further, the option exists - but only if you start your learning here.
Why is sleep important?
Sleep allows our brains to process information that we absorb throughout the day. Overtime sleep deprivation can lead to brain aneurisms, seizures (i.e.:Epilepsy), depression, auditory hallucinations and a host of other unwanted things. Getting to a dream state signifies this daily processing. If you don’t get to several dream states before our session then you might not be able to take advantage of the change available during the session. Not getting to a dream state after the session will make you highly irritable and will delay your processing.
Do you change or alter memories?
Some NLP practitioners change memories. It is my personal position that we respect every memory as useful information - like there is nothing wrong with you in any way shape of form - you just have a perception of a memory that doesn’t work for you anymore. Although the process I use can be used to alter memories, I don’t advocate that. I prefer to add an alternative perception of the memory to the brain.
When someone comes in to see me, they are experiencing the worst option, but it is the only option that their brain has available. At one time this was the best option because it made that person feel safe.
I work with the client to create a much better option and perception of the memory and then we make it stick by using a bit of hypnotic languaging. The implanted information has an expanding effect so over time the effects are greater felt.
Why are you calling what you do and teach TNLP?
TNLP stands for Therapeutic Neuro-Linguistic Programming. This will be the only accredited organization that provides a certificate for this unique practice of NLP. Currently if you have a certified Master Practitioner there is huge variability in what people know and their competence in creating people change. Someone once told me they were a NLP practitioner after a 3 hour seminar! Because of this variability, Therapeutic NLP is an expansion of NLP into deep issues and will be stringently taught and competency tested. This is the only school of NLP that is doing it and we're seeking academic accreditation for this program.
Do you use Hypnosis? Or does NLP use Hypnosis?
Yes and no. I use something called “Hypnotic Languaging.” Hypnotic Languaging requires the use of hypnotic language patterns. A hypnotic language pattern is pace-pace-lead. A pacing statement tells the listener something they already know like: “The TVs are over there” and the there is a huge sign saying “TVs” where the person is pointing. A leading statement tell the listener something they don’t know but can agree on and is directive like “you are getting sleepy.” When the brain hears at least 2 things it already knows, it will automatically agree to the 3rd statement. Although there’s a bit more to this, Hypnosis follows this pattern.
I use hypnosis to have my clients relax while I’m working with them, not to manipulate or influence them. And, I try and keep them close to fully conscious until the last half an hour of the session. You have my word on this.
How are your classes different?
Other NLP practitioners trainings mix NLP with coaching, reiki, massage, tapping etc. This is not that type of training. We expand the use of NLP technology and application of the original technology through the technology itself. We are very different than psychotherapy and even counseling.
Additionally, other NLP training organizations believe in quick delivery without practice. They don’t teach how to develop a practice or even how to work with clients. We ensure that our students are provided with a compentency-based practicum so that when they choose to stop learning from us they can use what they learned in their outside world to better their own and others' experiences.
How do I know if I have PTSD?
One thing you can do is fill out a PTSD assessment here. This PTSD assessment will give you some idea if you are suffering the effects of PTSD.
Alternatively, you can come in and see Tracy for an assessment and treatment. The tricky part about PTSD is that sometimes it appears many years after the trauma after a memory of the trauma is stimulated - called "late onset PTSD." In this case, we can deal with the issue presented.
How do I support someone who is suffering from PTSD?
Did you know PTSD can be caught like a cold? But it happens when the person suffering from PTSD is asked by people who are trying to support them to recall and recount as much of the incident as they can. Then the act of visualizing someone else's traumatic situation can cause PTSD in the experiencer.
What you need to know is that in trauma therapy many times we don't need to actually deal directly with the trauma because it may cause more damage than good. This part of trauma therapy is based on the individual. If we build up the individuals self-esteme and self-worth, the incident many times becomes incidental. Instead, if you are providing support to someone with PTSD help them create a safe, nurturing place to live and space free of triggers or things that stimulate their bad memories. DO NOT encourage them to tell you about their experience. Let them be how they are and help them make thier life as normal as possible. Let them tell you what they feel is right for them and give them the ability to control as much as their world as possible. If they do tell you something about their trauma, do not ask questions or pry more. You can thank them for feeling comfortable enough with you to share their experience. Ask them what they need from you for support. Make sure to monitor yourself for sleepless nights, nightmares, etc. and if these symptoms persist longer than 2 days seek professional help.
Who are you?
My name is Tracy Joy and yes, this was my birth name. I have dedicated my life to making significant, sustained changes in human beings. I think my curiosity of human behavior originally started when I was grade five. I happened to convince my entire 5th grade to make tissue flowers in exchange for popularity credit. A pretty huge feat considering I was most likely to be the one tied to a tree with her bike by her classmates. In university I was a scientist through and through graduating first with a biology degree in science and a psychology degree in arts in four and half years.
I moved out west to work with companies and create change within them because I thought people needed to be happy working. Along the way, I learned that it was communication that was paramount in creating human change that fueled any small or large scale change. It was the words they used that created and altered perceptions and motivated people or not. The more I researched and learned the closer it lead me to NLP.
When I started learning NLP, I was skittish. I would tell Carl, my teacher, I'll be there for the first class but I can’t guarantee I would be there for the rest... And then, I would show up to every class in that course! When the next class would start, I would do the same thing. What was so surprising to me, even now, is that when I started learning NLP, I had no idea that I was suffering from PTSD myself. This realization is relatively new. And, it now makes sense why the most of the people I attract to working with me suffer from sexual, physical and emotional abuse... because I’ve suffered the same. And it was as a result of NLP training and being suported by the right people that I got to processed as deeply as I need to work with others that have experienced the same.
NLP literally gave me my life. It allowed me to play in the realm and the level I wanted play at and gave me the accolades and recognition I wanted to get. It got rid of those internal voices or recording from my childhood past that told me I was bad and wrong for so long. If you come and participate in my courses or in my sessions, it really is my pleasure and my honor to help and support you, the way I have learned to do this. No one, should be without support that produces healing.
If you are wondering what my credentials are to do any of this work, here they are:
- - Bachelor of Science: Zoology and Botany
- - Bachelor of Arts: Psychology
- - Completed the Chartered Accountancy Program
- - Strategic Planning
- - Corporate Governance
- - Appreciative Inquiry Practitioner
- - Leadership Coach
- - Leadership Consultant
- - Master in Business and Administration: Executive Management with a specialty in Leadership
- - Emergenetics Associate
- - Certified Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- - Systematic Constellations Fascilitator
- - Registered Professional Counsellor Candidate
- - PhD in Holistic Psychology (in process)
My education makes a lot of sense when I tell you a classroom has always been my safe place. But then you might think I am all education even though most of my education had very large expereince requirements or required previous expereince to obtain them. I was even a molecular biologist for the faculty of medicine at the University of Manitoba while I was doing my biology and psychology degrees. I've been a CFO in business many times in both Canada and the US, as well directed large scale business culture, thinking change and strategic planning and development in both profit and not-for-profit companies. The one thing I can guarantee about my work is being able to create individual thinking and communication change.
What is PTSD?
PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is caused by a psychologically traumatic event involving actual threat of death or serious injury to oneself or witness or even experiencing through someone else. Symptoms involve re-experiencing the event, changing sleep patterns, difficulty concentrating, aggression, nightmares, disturbing thoughts, anxiety, depression, distraction, irritability, full or partial loss of memory, nightmares, flashbacks, avoidance, emotional numbing, guilt, withdrawal, etc.
When a person has any experience the brain logs the event using the sensory (pictures, sounds, tastes, smells and feelings) system. If a person wants to retrieve (or remember) such an event, the person needs to access one or more of the sensory inputs used in remembering the event. Over time the brain practices accessing events or memories. A good event will seem to get better. A painful event will appear to get worse. This is because when the brain reviews a memory, it embeds information from the moment the review takes place and adds it to the memory. This rehearsal of the memory of the event occurs many times over a 21 day period after the event becoming a habit in the brain. As a result of this brain practice we may not remember consciously some or all of the original event and are frequently surprised by our reactions to the things that happen around us.
I had a client that told me casually that she hadn't driven a car in 10 years but would be getting into the driver's position again soon. When I asked her to imagine she was in the driver's seat while in my office, her eyes bulged out, her head backed up, she started raising her voice and then she quickly changed subject. When I brought her back to the subject of driving a couple minutes later to discuss what had just taken place, she told me she didn't know what happened to her that caused her to act like that.
This reaction is similar to the reaction many people have to mouse or a spider. Our brains perceive a mouse or spider that is less than an inch high as much larger. It results in us reacting by stand on chairs and tables. Our brain distorts the size of the spider or mouse through practice. We are in affect experiencing what it is like to have a flashback. We are reacting not to reality but to a memory that was triggered in our brain.
When a person experiences something traumatic the brain is overloaded with sensory information. The multiple sensory overload makes it easy for the brain to access the original painful memory at many access points. As part of our brain's survival system the brain rehurses every aspect of the painful experience to identify such an event in the future. As the brain practices this information, the brain imbeds additional information available in the current phobic state but may not have occured in the orriginal event. As time goes on the individual experiences more and more of their reality closing in around them as every subsiquent reminder triggers the more of the original painful memory. Because the brain doesn't know the difference between reality and a memory, as time goes on, every aspect in a PTSD sufferers' life apears dangerous to them. This results in exhaustion, depression, withdrawal and other unwanted effects.
With my work, I've been able to work with and alter the way an individual's brain accesses these painful memories so that the original memories are used in more productive ways resulting in tremendous relief. Most PTSD sufferers experience full recovery within 3 sessions over a 3 to 6-month period of time.
How to get take the edge off of depression?
Please note, if you are on any medication for depression, please stay on it. If you come in for a session, we can re-assess the situation after you experience the results of the session. If we determine that you don't require these drugs it will take you at least 6 weeks to wean off these drugs.
Depression in the NLP world is one of two things: 1.) Either you are stuck in a review cycle; As in, you hear or see something and it triggers a painful emotional memory and then you re-review internally what heard or saw and it builds that painful emotional memory and then you repeat this cycle over and over again. 2.) Or, The emotions are so big that they bleed all over to every part of your life.
I recommend people start by trying to work with the first and then work into the second if they have to. The first thing, you might want to know is that emotions and feelings are slow. They are so slow that we often mistake that an emotion or feeling relates to experience we are having when they don’t relate and may not ever related to what we are experiencing in the moment. So for each of theses things you need to sustain them for 20 seconds to a minute and half.
If you are stuck in a review cycle what’s happening is you are not getting to the next sense in your information processing cycle. When we process information we process them through specific patterns of our senses. To move us to the next pattern you may need to introduce a new visual, and new auditory, a new smell, or a new taste. For a new Visual: Try looking straight up to the ceiling without moving your head upward for 20 seconds to a minute and half. Or try painting a wall your favorite color and look at it. For a new Auditory: Change the song you are playing on your MP3 player. For a new smell: Try smelling vanilla. For a new taste: Try eating a piece of chocolate and letting melt in your mouth if you are female. If you are male try having cinnamon tea. And, if that doesn’t work, if your male try the chocolate and if your a female try the cinnamon tea.
Who is this training designed for?
1.) Individuals who want professional development that improves their job ability in leadership, communication and workability with their coworkers and/or boss.
2.) Individuals who work with others to better others lives (they might be a therapist, hypnotherapist, body worker, holistic or alternative healer). They want to develop quick, deep rapport with their clients to calm and relax them and facilitate their change. They also want the ability to leave their client's stuff with their client and not take their stuff personally. They want to augment and enhance their change repertoire and may even want to start their own therapeutic NLP practice.
3.) Individuals who may have already learned NLP but are not satisfied with their ability to apply the formulas efficiently effectively and how they've been able to integrate NLP into their own life. They may have even added other skills like coaching or some type of touch therapy to their NLP training to augment their NLP to make it more effective.
4.) Individuals who want their own personal and professional change, growth and development for a better, more fulfilling experience of life. They know it is created by their own internal change.
Everyone that attends will get number 4.
Why take a nap before turing on a computer or TV?
The mages on TV sets and computer screens move. This stimulates the brain more and could distract the brain from some or part of the learning process. If you want to process or learn information quicker, as soon as you learn it, take a nap. This will help with your retention. After the nap feel free to watch as much TV as you want or work on a computer.
Why must I take a 5 minute nap immediately after a session?
During the session I am using hypnosis to make you feel more relaxed. As the session goes on, you go deeper and deeper into a trans state and become more and more suggestible. For my client’s safety, I recommend people take a 5 minute nap before looking at a computer screen or TV - even just closing your eyes for this amount of time in car or on the bus leaving the session will raise your trans level and start the processing of the session.
We are all in different layers of trans at all times. Sleep is a level of deep trans. Being wide wake is a level of light trans. When you are directly hypnotized you are put at a level of trans I call “cluck like a chicken” because it is usually the person’s state of highest suggestibility before sleep. I like to keep my clients closer to the awake level of trans rather than the “cluck like a chicken level.” However, by the end of the session most people are close to the “cluck like a chicken” trans level. To raise this level, I have people take a nap before they do anything or interact with anyone. During the session you will experience or have experienced slow hypnosis called “hypnotic languaging.” It occurs so slowly that clients don’t recognize it. I use not just my words, but also my body language to create this effect.
What is PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?
PTSD is defined as an anxiety disorder that is triggered by the the brain's repeatative learning process after the exposure to a traumatic or life threatening event.
Have other questions you want answered?
Contact me and I'll write you back and post your questions and answer here.
What is your Philosophy?
It is my firm belief you have the power to heal yourself from the effects of abuse and trauma by using your mind. Let me show you how.
My goal is your relief.
During our lives scars from our past can re-surface and hold us back from living the lives we want. When we least expect it, these scars can cause enough psychological and even physical pain to have us back away from the very opportunities we desire. Making us feel worse about our selves and our abilities.
What is a Constellation?
A constellation is a process in which hidden unconscious aspects of a company or family are brought to the surface so that the issues can be resolved. Constellation facilitation can occur in individual session work or with a group.
The constellation technology we used originated from Virginia Satir's Family Reconstruction therapy that would occuur over days to create a resolution. Virginia noticed that if she could get the entire family to stand in specific orders and position that the issues between the family members would resolve.
Bert Hellinger took this work and developed further by using stand ins or proxies for the family members and found that the resolution took place whether the original family was in the room or not.
Carl Buccheit developed it further by making the constellation double blind to remove both practitioner's bias and proxy bias and then developed a method of constellation for working with indiviudal clients.
I use a modified version of Carl's work. My clients are always surprised what we dig out of their psychie and the information available to them in this process - especially since they are able to validate the information gained and they are able to physically feel the release when we resolve issues in their family system.
Constellations
"I open myself to a situation in darkness, not knowing what is going on. ... when I find a place of light, I try to describe what is illuminating me...when the right word is found, those for whom it came, grasp it at a level beyond rational thought. The right word touches and moves them even when they don't understand how." - Bert Hellinger
"Everything I thought I understood about love, death, families, tragedies, illness, war and loss expanded in ways I could never have imagined. I saw people who were struggling with depression, with money, with illness, with relationship issues, transformed on a huge scale. I saw how tragedies and loss from the past were still affecting the lives of family members several generations later-even if they had no conscious knowledge of the original events. I heard stories of how after a constellation, family members half way around the world -who had no idea a constellation had been done - were suddenly transformed. I felt changes happening in me just from witnessing other people's constellations. It became obvious that we are all way more connected than we have any way of knowing." - Michelle Masters
This simple and complex experience will change the way you experience change. You will not be the same; your sense of who you are in this world and our universe or space and time-especially time-will change, usefully, wonderfully, and irrevocably for you.
Family constellations was started by Virginia Satir and further developed by Bert Hellinger, a German Psychotherapist. The version we use was adapted by Michelle Masters and Carl Buccheit.
"... all people carry with them an energetic field or blueprint of their biological families - this field has been called the family soul or family conscience. The energetic field has an enormous unconscious effect on each family member's life and all the people they interact with. Long standing problems with health, depression, relationships, failed finances, etc. are usually a result of unconscious entanglements in the family soul. Doing a constellation is a way to bring those entanglements to light, and allow for some resolution to happen. Quite often after a constellation, other members of the family who were not present for the constellation - didn't even know it was happening report dramatic shifts as a result. Because the family is a system --- like an energetic mobile, what affects one, affects all. And what keeps one stuck, affects them all." - Bert Hellinger
Leopold Zundi, a biologist discovered that a species passes important survival information genetic material. Latent ressesive genes provide information so that a species can pass adaptive survival strategies on to the next generation. This explains why you might find families of with 4 generations of lawyers or 3 generations of doctors.
When this information works negatively in our lives we call it an entanglements. These problems last for about 7 generations or for about 25-30 people unless it is something like murder, which can have an effect for a longer period of time.
For example the original incident could be something like: Grandpa lost money in the depression and it leaves an imprint in the family subconscious. This has the effect on your father's and maybe your ability to hold onto money.
Types of entanglements show up as thing like the following in business and in life:
No permission to connect:
- a.) Alone - overwhelmed - workaholic
- b.) Trouble networking
- c.) Not getting enough new customers
- d.) Trouble in relationships (afraid to let go into intimacy to pattern of attracting other who won't open up.)
No permission for success:
- a.) Trouble starting or growing a business
- b.) High water mark: money
- c.) Trouble selling products or services
- d.) Uncomfortable doing sales
Pull towards death:
- a.) A dim life - not much success
- b.) Health issues
- c.) Not knowing what you want/indecisive
- d.) Emotions, sadness, dark mornings (like driving down the highway and having a desire to turn the wheel and run somebody over for no good reason)
Jewish, African, Irish, native, American and Chinese people are the big 5 for lots of problems due to the exceptionally traumatic calamities which have surrounded their ethnic histories.
When should I consider having a Constellation?
When there are problems like repeat finance, career problems, chronic health issues, relationship problems/patterns, when there is metal or physical illness like terminal disease, frequent accidents, suicidal tendencies, depression, problems sleeping, etc. in your family. All of these are signals to consider a constellation. Check in with us, we will be starting group sessions over the summer months where we will be doing constellation group work.
What do you mean by good sleeps?
If you don’t have a good sleep it means your brain may not properly respond and process the information you receive during a session or even during the day. Which means processing times for a session will be off (i.e.: much longer than 21 days). A good sleep is signalled by reaching a dream state for at least 20 minutes 2 times a night. It's normal to not remember your dreams, but you probabaly will remember that you had dreamed. If not, feeling tired when you wake up and not being able to easily fall asleep at night can signal you are not getting enough REM/Dream sleep. This is the timme your brain is processing the days events and not getting to this stage or going past stage into deep sleep can cause memory issues, anxiety, irritibility and even depression.
If you are not getting good sleeps contact me (604-442-8657 or ) and I'll suggest a sleep plan for you based on your current situation.
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